Thoughts on Love

They do not love that do not show their love.

The course of true love never did run smooth.
Love is a familiar. Love is a devil. There is no evil angel but Love.

-- William Shakespeare

Tidal love

If there's any one person who has had experienced the worst in love, I'm pretty sure I am one of them. Throughout my life, I have taken a number of views on love. I had ventured into a lot of things just to try to understand love. But this, until I found out that it is almost impossible for a person to fully understand love as its complexity is beyond our predictability. Earlier, I used to think of a relationship as something that can be consistently and consciously controlled to work smoothly in the direction that we favour. However, experiences have taught me that it does not always work that way. There's always some bumpy roads along the way. As for now, I have come to understand of love and relationship as something that is so close to nature, in which it closely reflects the nature itself. Love is like tides. It always change unpredictably, in which sometimes without prior sign nor warning. This is equally the same to a relationship. Sometimes it feels like to be in a successful relationship is as difficult as sailing a boat in the ocean. To get it moving in the right direction, it involves many uncontrollable factors which can alter directly the direction of the wind and indirectly the direction to where the boat is moving. In most cases, a sailor has to wait for the wind to blow to get the boat moving, but the wind does not necessarily all the time blow in favour to the sailor's wish.In such cases, the only thing the sailor can do is to keep waiting patiently hoping that the temperature will change so that the wind will blow and move the boat into its prefered destination. Similarly, in a relationship, especially a long relationship, we often take some time off just to relax our mind after an occurence of a conflict in the relationship. Some of us even used the time to cool themselves as well as to reflect upon themselves. I always feel that reflecting upon our own self is a vital necessity in a relationship. It helps us to become concious of our own flaws in the relationship and determine the best strategies to tackle the problems that arise. Also, at some points in everyone's relationship, there will be a time where we are obliged to make an important decision regarding the relationship, our partner as well as ourselves. This is like when the sailor decide to row the boat closer to the shore while waiting for the wind to come back, instead of just merely waiting for the winds to blow again. Imagine if the sailor do not row and the wind is never back, he will never make it to the shore. Similarly, in a relationship, when the time come for a decision to be made, it has to be made regardless and running away from the problem is certainly not going to help. The only thing it will help is to make the problem becomes worst. Thus, it is more worth to take the challenge and fight the problem in order to save the relationship.

P.S. A thousand thanks to my mon cheri Jeremy for the efforts in looking for the picture as well as the title for this post.Your love will always light my inspiration.bisous.

All the single ladies, put your hands up!!!

Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love, well, that's just fabulous ( Carrie, Sex and the City). 

I choose to agree with Carrie. I have learnt from experiences that self-esteem and confidence are the most significant ingredients to attract a man. You got to love and trust yourself first before expecting others to trust you. Besides, as love and relationships come and go in the way that we never expected, its always good to just to rely on ourselves instead of men.Single life sometimes  could be more fun and exciting then you ever expected it to be!For example, would you whistle some hot guys on the beach with your girlfriends if you have a boyfriend? And not to mention, you will have heaps of opportunities to get to know more people while you are single since you have most of the time to yourself. Like I met my new friend, Jacob who really inspired me to write and to express myself (we mostly spent time talking about literature and his childhood experience), Nicola, who is always sweet and supportive and Irene, who is like a mother to me. Also, you have an ample of time to do more inspirational and productive things in your life like reading and writing which you probably do not have much time to do so before. . And for guys, if you are reading this, it works just the same for you too!!! So everyone,keep your chin up and be happy, being single does not always mean it's the end of the world! =) Till then, xoxo.

                          

                                       (jacob corner in white shirt)

Thoughts on love

                                           (Valentine 2008: Bouquet for David)

They do not love that do not show their love.
The course of true love never did run smooth.
Love is a familiar. Love is a devil. There is no evil angel but Love.
-- William Shakespeare

This is so true. The course of love indeed never did run smooth. One minute you are so much in love with a person and feels so much connected to the person, the next minute you realize you just do not know the person anymore at all. Love is a familiar. Sometimes you find yourself doing anything just to fall in love. Some travel the world just to be with the person they love. And I am one of them. Some just do not realise that they are in love.

Love is a devil. It makes you do things you never imagine yourself doing for love.Like I rushed from Paramatta to Turramurra at 11 p.m after a call just to be with my ex when he needed me the most (He was ill!).You could be in love with a person who is not at all your type of guy, but who cares, love is too sweet to let go! But one thing for sure is that even though love might comes and goes as swiftly as the wind, but it never leave you nothing. There will always be one sweet thing in every love story you ever have in your life. Some loves resolves into friendships.A clear example is Brendan and me There is a lesson learnt from every love story in one's life. And the most greatest thing one could do for someone they love is to sacrifice and to learn to let go. Let it go and if it comes back, it will be yours forever and if not, its not worth chasing. xoxo.